Sunday, November 2, 2014

You Never Know


The Charleston Gazette
 
November 2, 2014
Page 7E
 
You Never Know
By
Peggy Toney Horton 
 
“You just never know what’s going to happen,” said my friend who’d just received a disappointing diagnosis from her doctor. She had a far-away look in her eyes as if she were trying desperately to figure out what had happened to her.
And why.
Not long after that conversation, she passed away. I’ve thought of her and her remark many times since. It’s true. One can never guess what might happen next year, next week, tomorrow or even in the next moment.
To put it bluntly, life’s a crapshoot!
A young lady we know went to work early one morning feeling fine and happy. She had two wonderful children, several beloved pets, a nice home with all the comforts and a job she loved.
Life was good!
But by eleven a.m., she was in an ambulance, on her way to the hospital screaming in pain! Many hours of testing and eight days in the hospital revealed that she had not one, but two serious conditions that will be with her for the rest of her life. Both conditions will require continuous treatment and the possiblility exists that other serious diseases may spring up from these. Before this incident, she was young and vibrant, but now, both her quality and quantity of life are uncertain, at best.
When I heard about this, my friend’s words echoed in my mind, “You just never know what’s going to happen.”
Similarly, a young man we know was resting on his sofa one Sunday evening, watching TV and feeling fine, but when he tried to get up to get ready for bed, he suddenly felt very ill and it was all he could do to make it to the bedroom and fall onto his bed. There he slept until early morning, when he managed to get up and make an appointment with his doctor. Somehow, he got himself ready and drove to the doctor’s office.
It didn’t take the doctor long to diagnose a leaky heart valve. He immediately sent him to a Cardiologist who ran a barrage of tests and, before the young man knew what was happening, he was scheduled to see a surgeon to discuss how soon open-heart surgery could be done.
After he underwent a seven-hour procedure to replace his mitral heart valve with an artificial valve, he spent ten days in the hospital and months at home recovering.
His life changed drastically!
He had always been extremely active: worked out at a gym three times a week, took long walks, and worked endless hours on his house and in his yard, besides his job. But now, he tired easily and found that he could no longer tolerate the workouts, nor the long walks. Though he tried to work in his yard, it was difficult and he had to stop after short periods and rest or take a nap.
These are only two examples of how uncertain life can be. There are many. Almost everyone you meet has a story to tell about someone whose life was changed in the blink of an eye by something unexpected.
Since, as my friend said, “You just never know what’s going to happen,” perhaps we should stop worrying so much about tomorrow and next week and next year – and learn to live only one day at a time? Because that is all we have.
And that’s a good thing.
If all the days of the future were dumped into our lap at one time, we’d be overwhelmed, wouldn’t we? But God, in His wisdom, broke life up into portions so small that anyone can manage it if we take it as it is given – one day at a time.
Life is filled with unexpected surprises, some treasures, others challenges, but if we approach every situation with absolute faith in God, we’ll find our doubts and worries are short-lived. When change occurs suddenly or dramatically, we have only to remind ourselves that we are never alone. God is with us and within us! While circumstances are temporary, God’s love is eternal and enduring.
And the power of God in us is constant and unchanging.
Peggy Horton lives in Nitro and may be reached at pegylu@suddenlink.net

 


11 comments:

  1. Excellent, Peggy!

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  2. Peggy I know it was not easy writing this, but if it helps just one person to stop and smell those roses, all was not in vain. We need to take one day at a time thank God for the day and ask His blessings on us for the next. May God lay His hands of mercy on all having health issues and the families who loves them.

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  3. Thank you, Drema! You are a wise woman. I love you!

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  4. You have amazing insight and are a wonderful writer!

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  5. Wonderful Peggy! Thank you for the reminder of just how precious life is

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  6. I love it....as always!

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  7. Great is his faithfulness; his mercies begin afresh each morning Lamentations 3:23 Thank you Peggy for your reminder.

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  8. An usually great story, tomorrow is not a promise and we need to be ready for whatever happens, knowing God is there with us brings a peace of mind that no matter what happens things will be ok. P.S. I'm also sharing this.

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  9. And even more wonderful, as you mentioned, are those unexpected events we never see coming - those great things that happen to us or when we have sudden opportunities to give a helping hand to others in their lives. Life is good. Love your writings.

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  10. My son called, "I'll be over in a while Mom, Randy and I are fixing the breaks on my car. Happy Birthday."
    An hour later my son was gone. He died of a congenital heart defect, something no one knew. My grandson, my first born grandson, the child that I had looked at in wonder when he was born, had to tell me how hard he worked to save him. They were only seven years apart in age.... more like brothers.
    Two weeks later I had to say good-by to my grandson. His mother said he died of a broken heart.

    Thank you, Peggy. I read everything you write. It brings me comfort. Thank you, too, for being part of my family.

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    1. Dear Anonymous: What you describe seems like too much for one mother and grandmother to bear in such a short period. We don't know why God allows these things and sometimes we wonder if we can live through the pain, but somehow, we do. I have written much about why bad things happen to good people, but I have no answers. All any of us knows is that God never promised us a life without pain, but He did say He'd always be with us to help us through whatever happens.That's all we have. I know it sounds redundant, but time is a great healer. I send my love. And I'll be praying for you and your family. May you find more peace with each passing day. God bless you!

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